Thank you ladies for the comments and the twitter messages today about the situation I blogged about earlier. I decided to take down the post, but I most definitely won't forget the advice that you sweet ladies have given me. I re-read my post and realized how "high school" it sounded and how it might come across. I know the situation is one that a lot of people are grabbling with...learning how to let go of relationships, but I just felt like what I was saying might not explain the situation in all it's entirety and might come across as sounding harsh and incredibly immature.
Maybe I'll end up writing a more general post about moving on and letting go. but I felt bad just having a post that felt like it was just bashing someone. Instead for the time being, I thought I'd do something more general and ask:
How have you handled moving on from someone that has been a huge part of your life - whether it was a break up, a friendship or relationship that turned toxic or just simply friend(s) that you feel you have kind of moved away from? If you haven't moved on from some of these things, but are experiencing them, I'm also wondering, what is it that holds you back? I know how difficult it is to let go. I tend to hold on far too long. I'm curious to hear from all of you. That's what I love about blogging. All of you ladies always have something uplifting to say, or something that really makes me think of things differently. Sometimes it's just so refreshing to be able to hear "I know exactly what you mean and what you're going through!" It certainly does mean a lot.
Hope you all are having a great Friday night! I'm ready for a hot shower and I'll admit I'm a little pumped to sleep in my clean sheets tonight!
Friday, November 20, 2009
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You are too sweet. I have definitely experienced that feeling in many aspects of my life. I promise it will get better. DOUBLE PROMISE. Hang in there girl. Pretty soon, this will just be a speed bump!
ReplyDeleteSo I missed the original post (cause i'm been too busy at work and had zero time this week - boo! ok, my personal pity party is over!). But I've gone through this quite a few times, both with friends and relationships.
ReplyDeleteThe only successful way to get over someone/something is to cry about it. Then, cut that person out. Completely. If the other person insists to keep in contact, I let them know I don't want to speak with them and I ignore them.
I know it seems so final. But that's the only way I've ever gotten over anything.
Years later, I become comfortable with finally making contact with a couple of these people. And I've been ok.
Hope this has been semi-helpful. If you need anything, let me know! Please girly!
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ReplyDeleteSo I posted about wanting to email you... but then couldn't find your email address.
ReplyDeleteTime. Time is just about the only thing that can heal. And an attitude that you won't let this hold you back.
I would love to email you about this. I'm going through a pretty hard circumstance right now and would love to give you some tips on what I've learned. emaleigh85@gmail.com
Thankfully moving up here after grad school helped. It's really made me realize I'll put forth the effort to keep in touch with some people and not others. There are people I'll be in touch with when I'm 80 and people who were just good acquaintances on some level.
ReplyDeleteI think time is the main thing. And making sure I'm not always the one to call, etc. It's hard to remember phones work both ways for me.
Oh my gosh, don't even worry about it! We all have those days, I know I sure do. I really hope everything works out, you deserve it!
ReplyDeleteI have always found that with time (I know kinda cliche) you will look back and find why that person came into your life, but then why they went out of your life. It's all about the lessons you gain along the way. I have unfortunately dealt with my fair share of these situations. Keep your head up girl! Things will work out! :)
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